The teen years are fraught with conflicting feelings and thoughts as these almost-grown children head closer to adulthood. Parents are often left wondering what happened to their delightful kids who went from happy-go-lucky to moody, frustrated, conflict-ridden adolescents. KidsHealth from Nemours advises distinguishing the difference between emotion-driven adolescence and puberty, which is physiological.
That is, during adolescence, teenagers need to extend away from their parents, all the while staying connected to their parents. Their job is to extend; your job is to connect. In the United States, we often make a cultural presumption that teens and young adults who are close to their parents are less independent in their lives.
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As youths' peer relationships become more central to their lives, there is less time available to spend with their family members. However, the lack of time is not the only reason for this shift away from family. As mentioned in the preceding section LINK, the quality of peer relationships changes during adolescence. These qualitative changes are due to greater cognitive and emotional maturity.
Parent-child relationships evolve as children grow. Understanding how parent-child relationships develop as children move into adolescence can provide insights that may help families, teachers and service providers best support these relationships in this important period of life. This chapter describes parent-child relationships at ages 10—11, 12—13 and 14—15 years.
Parent-child conflict increases as children move into adolescence. Although this trend is not inevitable, it is common and can be quite distressing for parents and adolescents. Both can feel baffled about what happened to the good old days of family harmony.
When our children are young they seem to need and rely on their parents for just about anything. However, as children age, entering adolescence and teenage years they appear to need us or even want our help even less. There is an assumption that once children become teenager families become less important, however, this assumption is completely inaccurate.
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I have never had a mom tell me, "I want my daughter to be perfect," or had a dad say, "I want to have absolute authority over my son. But I have heard hundreds of girls say, "My mom wants me to be perfect," and hundreds of young men have said to me, "My dad rules our home with an iron fist. As parents, we want a strong relational bond with our teens.